The Big Chop: More Than A Haircut

The Big Chop: More Than A Haircut

In 2018, I had reached such high levels of stress that a large bald spot formed at the top of my head. In the midst of an emotional breakdown, I decided to chop all of my hair off. But I had a hard time accepting the idea of cutting it to buzz cut essentially.

The hair grew back only for a bald spot to return at the start of 2020. I was working in a toxic environment, and that balding only grew when the pandemic hit and I lost my job. Fast forward 3 years later, my body can’t let go of the stress my mind is convinced it has overcome.

So after months (hell, even years) of talking myself out of chopping my hair off, I chopped and buzzed the damaged hair away at the end of last month. Despite some reservations and small precut panic, I actually felt good about the haircut. Which is saying something because it wasn’t barbershop-worthy.

I remember killing the idea of cutting my hair in the past due to the ideas that my husband wouldn’t find me attractive, my head was shaped funny, or I was too fat to have short hair. But my husband has actually been pretty supportive of my decision.

Prior to the big chop, I watched a bunch of TikTok videos to get in the right mindset. For the most part, it felt encouraging to see other black women take on the chop for their own reasons.

When I looked in the mirror to cut off my hair, I saw the damage and realized I was holding on to unhealthy shit. It felt like my hair was the literal embodiment of me holding onto damaging things in my life: people, bad habits, negative thoughts, etc.

I have always seen people talk about how a woman is ready for a change in her life when she does something drastic to her hair. And as cliche as I always thought it was, I am coming to see it as true. While there are still some emotional ties to the loss of my hair, when I look at my short hair, I see new beginnings, hope for new possibilities, and excitement that I can take on anything.

My hair has shown noticeable growth in the past few weeks, which excites me every day. I even went to a dermatologist the day after my haircut to finally have a black woman look at my scalp.

Let me tell you, black women in healthcare make a difference! I went to a dermatologist years ago to examine my scalp for hair issues. He was a white man and was pretty much dismissive. But not this time. I was assigned a nurse practitioner, and the way she listened to me, examined my scalp and gave me treatment options……I almost could have cried. I am looking forward to what my hair will do as I start over.

Have you ever done the big chop? How did you feel before and after?

National Black Business Month and AI’s “Helping” Hand(s)

National Black Business Month and AI’s “Helping” Hand(s)

I have been using AI a lot lately. Which comes with a mixed bag of feelings. As someone who has had to work freelance to pay bills and currently works in a competitive, creative niche….AI is quickly making my skills feel unnecessary in this competitive job market.

But as a small business owner who can not afford to outsource certain things and doesn’t have the time to create everything from scratch, I find AI to be an amazing (and horrifying tool). Most of my usage has been for generating images that I can manipulate later when I can’t find a good stock image. But I have also used it to help with SEO product descriptions (the jury is still out on the success of that one).

So I wanted to see if a blog post could be created that didn’t sound like it was full of shit. With one try and the prompt of “SEO Blog Post About the Importance of Shopping Black Owned Businesses during August,” AI generated the following (including the title):

Is that not crazy? I spent hours trying to generate content for clients that this program did in seconds. While AI is not perfect (I can’t tell you how many pictures I have generated with multi-armed people or ones missing limbs), it is a fascinating tool and a game changer. But every day, I wonder if that game changer will be for good. Something tells me the end result will be like the Aliens. We won’t even be surprised. But instead of being smart about it, we are distracted with other things.

In the meantime, here are several black-owned businesses that I think you should check out, not just for August:

Solar Candle Company
J. Antoinette 1927
Azur Scrubs
The Burning Wic Candle and Gift Shop
Dear Life Chat
DyCan Cosmetics

As I explore more black-owned businesses, I want to try and build a directory. But for now, I hope you will check out these amazing businesses.

Any thoughts on AI? Any black-owned shops you recommend I should try?